Have you ever been awaken by a sudden stabbing pain in the side of your temple? Well I often have migraines, and they are always sudden and pain full (alot like a sneak attack from the Frog Prince).
But while having an extremely painful one yesterday I was given alot of time to think while sitting in my sweet closet in the dark. Ya ya don't judge when you have light sensitivity with your amazing stabbing pain to your temple you'd go just about anywhere to feel a little relief! So while sitting in the closet and getting over the were the heck did I get all of these dang shoes and purses rant. I wondered, how often in life are we allowed to take a day to just sit and think?
I for one am really only granted a day like this when in excruciating pain. I think it may have something to do with being a single mommy of four, oh and the inability to justify time being wasted on me. And when I thought about this I thought about the countless conversations I have had with friends about how their husbands and my ex were able to go if and when ever they wanted too.
Now I am not against anyone getting a break but come on can't and shouldn't they return the favor? As you all know I was with the Frog Prince FOREVER! And during the 12 years of marriage my only break away would be going to the hospital! Yup, it was OK to be out of the house for two days if I was you know giving birth! But even then the Frog Prince would hand over what ever lil babies we had to my mom or baby sister to care for, so he could go home and rest. I mean cause you all know how hard of a struggle it is for the man to stand and watch t.v. while we are in labor, oh and those constant trips to get coffee, and the restroom, man I am just exhausted thinking about it!
So you see when I was giving birth it was fine to rest. But when we were done with that lil event it was back to full time mommy, wife, daughter in law etc. And yet the Frog Prince was able to justify spending hours and hours on the computer searching out things he "Needed", going in the back yard to drink and build fires with the tree limbs he would cut down, and well heck all of that is sooooo tiring you have to throw in a three or four hour nap. I mean because he had to be rested so that he could party like a Rock Star til three in the morning and blare his music through the house while drinking Everclear. Cause heck if Ozzy did it why couldn't he?
The fact of the matter is this, I believe there are amazing men in this world! For example my very good friend is working upwards of 60 hrs a week, but still takes his two babies for two nights and three days, and feels terrible because he can't do more! Or my best friends husband, he lives to be with his family (I know I was creeped out by this at first too) he helps with running the kids to activities, making dinner two nights a week, and did I mention he takes her out once or twice a week alone!
Now these are the stories and examples that many of us heart broke, and neglected woman love to hear. Why? Are we sadist? Do we love to torture ourselves? Maybe, but I truly believe it is because it gives us the ability to BELIEVE. To believe that there is a man out there that really will go out of his way each day just to show that he still is trying to be our forever.
Don't think men that you have to open up your wallet, and max out your credit cards! Yes we love surprises, but often it is the little things that really get to us. For example download songs that you know we love on our Ipods, or get us a coffee card for the place you know we go to refuel, or get the kids to bed for us one night and force us to watch our favorite movie with our favorite ice cream. Yes there are things that you can do such as date night, I have never done this but I hear it is a blast! Or schedule a day at the spa, a friend of mines husband does this about once a month and takes the kids while she goes and rejuvenates.
So I guess when you are in pain, and in a dark closet this is were you are able to have the time to really think about you. I suggest forgoing the migraine, but you can have it if that is what it takes to get you a break! Though I do think we all need to take the time to realign ourselves so that we are best able to serve those that need us the most.
